In recent turn of events, when people swamped streets in
protest against violence against women, has taken nation and media by storm.
Govt as usual remains unfazed by whatever people want. It took 7 days, 2 more
days after Rahul Gandhi made an appearance (still looking for answer to the
question, WHY HIM?), for our esteemed head of state to feel the pain after
strongly condemning the issue. Yes this time a little more strongly than
previous, I am sure potential molesters are shivering with fear somewhere.
Delhi CM repeated, in tears this time, she has no control over police or
public. No one seemed to know the answer to where was all that water coming
from in middle of water deprived national capital. Oh yes, govt were truly protecting your right
to protest. They started by shutting down metro station, applying sec 144 and
then using tear gases. Till the time of writing, people in power had no clue as
to who ordered these decisions.
Even our national
journalist Darkha but(t) felt the pain deeply and raised questions about
victim’s and women’s condition in oh-so-madern national capital (counting only
the total square feet area occupied by malls and multiplexes in Gurgaon and
Noida and discounting everything else). Although she had her doubts weather
these protests were secular or not. Please feel free to reply to her on twitter
when you find an answer. Police were brave and quick in action against people
who were trying to get to president to come out and talk to them. still
confused if we still follow normal voting procedure in electing govt or does
present house runs on self sustained power and whose money is it that they are
getting salaries with? But I might not be secular enough to ask these questions
so never mind me.
Let me clarify by
saying I didn’t go to protests because of office commitments, also because I am
depressed with, I repeat DEPRESSED with the present govt and don’t expect
anything good to come out of their decision. but these people were those who
still had hope that govt will listen. Kudos to men and women who braved the
cold, water cannons, tear gases and deaf govt to make their point visible.
But talking about
the reasons, and I am probably going to take a lot of flak for this, shouldn’t
we be looking at ourselves instead of blaming the police or govt for not
policing us properly? Aren’t WE the problem? Who are these people passing
comments, whistling, groping women in public places? How do they do it despite
knowing they will return to face their mother/sister or daughter? Although
there are good men who won’t touch a woman without her permission, those who
offend are certainly among us. I personally know some men who think it’s manly
to stare, follow women. Just because they are standing outside a disco means
there character needs judging. Won’t allow their sisters to even talk to other
guys but it’s ok when they are flirting with random women. Have opinions on
weather a woman should work after marriage or not. And the moment any logical
discussion is about to start, we start shoving tradition, culture and values in
the face of counter point of view.
So maybe, just
maybe, the problem lies inside us and deep rooted in the way of life, which
tells us its ok to treat women as second-class citizen whose every decision in
life should be ideally governed by ‘what society will say’. What good is a
culture if it prevents us from celebrating the act of giving life? YES I AM TALKING ABOUT SEX. Let me say that again SEX. SEX. Uncomfortable? Made you turn
in your place? Precisely my point. If we teach our son’s to respect women and
ask before touching or invading their privacy, maybe we wont need to remove
tinted glasses from cars and shutdown pubs/kill nightlife in a city. And rape
is NOT about pleasure, it is more about exercising power because a person dared
to question your point of view.
But that’s just me. People
are justified in their anger against govt for not acting, and trust me I share
your anger in more ways than one, but as far as women are concerned, somehow introspection
is more required than pelting stones at rajpath. Mothers, talk to your kids. They
know more than you think they do. Tell them, it’s not ok to touch a woman
without her permission. As a society, we owe this to women. There is a reason
men cant produce life, women are empowered with it. respect it.
Agree/disagree? Feel
free to comment \m/oO\m/