Why being famous sucks

This post was due for long time because I just could not jot down all ideas. But an article in Gurgaon times about ‘People who could not handle success’ featuring troubled actors such as Lindsay lohan, Britney spears and the likes filled the dot and it all made sense.

  I always thought why is that, that after getting everything normal person dreams of, celebrities do outrageous things. Some one drove his Audi over people sleeping; some got drunk and abused the guard at a stadium, someone took her life because of a failed relationship. They have everything, what do they long for? Can it be that being rich and famous isn’t that fun?

-  No private life: the biggest price one has to pay for being recognizable is that your private life is brutally taken away from you. Everyone wants to know everything about celebrities and paparazzi’s make sure they are never away from a flash. Publicity, which once begins as a fascination, later turns out to the biggest price you pay for being loved and admired by many.

-   Every action is up for public scrutiny: being in the news makes your actions bare in front of the whole world and it attracts unwanted and often unrequired criticism from people, who normally have nothing to do anything with your daily life. People who you don’t know commenting about your choices in life and expressing their discontent about personal decision can not be comforting no matter how easy going person you are.

-    Having an opinion is a curse: every one wants to know about your opinion on something or the other so it can make news when a celebrity has publically adored/criticized a govt action/public figure or something similar. And since every other person can not agree with you, press and news channel make it their duty to cover every singlt one of them and how you feel about it.

-   Ogling people: Eyes keep following you, no matter where you go, what you do. A simple task like going to market and having your favorite gol gappas or attending a concert of your favorite rock band turns a distant dream because you cannot risk causing a stampede. The ogling eyes never stop, they keep following you everywhere.

-   Random people expect you to be nice to them: Random people keep bumping into you to tell you the same thing, how big a fan they are and how their distant relatives would love to see them in a picture with you. Of course you are a celebrity so you are in a good mood all the time and would love to smile in a pic with them. It doesn’t matter that you have been sitting there for 5 hours waiting for your flight and doing the same thing over and over again. If you say no, you are rude.

-       You will be mocked regardless of your actions: there will be comedians/cartoonists who will make jokes about you, your actions/ your family matters because mocking famous people is easier and you don’t have to explain the joke. One wrong decision and you are the butt of all jokes in the entire country, debates are being organized on news channels and self-made public figures/’close’ friends to suggest you how bad a decision you have taken on national television.

-   Internet is a monster: you realize how big a nuisance a person with a smartphone can be. You suddenly realize how scandalous a single picture with you caught with a weird expression, scratching your back, trying to do anything out of the ordinary can turn out to be once it goes on to internet. And you are helpless trying to explain your stance while everyone is having time of his or her life at your expense. The biggest boon about the Internet turns out to be your biggest nightmare.

-   Number of friends and relatives increase exponentially: number of people who suddenly realize how close you and maternal uncle of their 3^rd cousin’s father were and so you should help them get their work done which normally involves giving a phone call to someone in a decision making position because he mentioned how big a fan he is. The number of people who you should avoid at a family function or a party keeps getting longer day be day until you absolutely can not meet anyone and are labeled rude.

Maybe people who went to the other side of stardom are normal people like us who want the same thing from life. it’s just that they managed to make it big in life. And like everyone, they make mistakes. I am not passing judgments here but the sudden realization about this kind of makes me think that being famous isn’t all that fun. agree/disagree? do comment \m/oO\m/

Aashiqui and Rockstar

It’s been so long since I updated my blog. Primary reason being was my laptop was in hibernation, and with the meager salary I make, took a really long time before I could afford to write again (FUCK YOU APPLE).

*Having watched either of Ashiqui 2 or Rockstar will help you make sense of the post*

  But the good thing is I am back and I am going to discuss movies, 2 to be more precise. I happened to catch ashiqui in theatres and contrary to my expectations, was blown away with the acting/script/execution/story. Its strange because barring 2-3 movies, I have found all of Mahesh Bhatt’s endeavors a little underwhelming because of their weird 2^nd half. Think of a well built dish, perfect in every single aspect but you just can’t put your finger on a single ingredient that is missing, which could have made it legendry. I have that reaction after all the movies.

 But while watching ashiqui, I couldn’t help but compare it with similarly treated, albeit a little underwhelming despite having all ingredients to be a cult and based on a similar plot, Rockstar.

 Remember how you were left unsatisfied after watching rockstar and were left asking for more after credits started rolling.  Apart from the obvious not so good performance by the leading lady, you were sure something was missing. It just didn’t make sense. It was missing soul in spite of  ‘Kun faaya kun’ and it was just not fare. it’s like being first in marathon for 3/4^th of the race and  then collapsing just before the finishing line. Jordan dreaming about it, getting everything he ever wanted and then losing it for heer should have made more sense. that pain, anguish, impatience missed something. SADDA HAQ missed an extra beat. I liked the movie, just couldn’t stop myself from thinking how great it could have been.

  But recent big screen experience, apart from being head banging music, made up for every complaint I had about the earlier tragic love story. The continuous battles, raw insult, need to see the greater good even if it causes some loss, was justified in such hard-hitting manner, it makes your heart break to think the movie Rockstar could/should/would have been. Rahul jaikar cannot see his ladylove paying the price for something he couldn’t appreciate, while Jordan can’t see the whole point of all the fame, success when things are burning inside him.

 Both the protagonists were wrong if looked through the world-wisdomly lens but look at them at a minute level and they are the same. They just yearn to be with the person they love and have different (or similar) reactions to everything, which prevents them from it which might seem weird for normal people but makes perfect sense in their own scheme of things.

Have you watched both movies? Found something similar/different? \m/oO\m/

Who is to blame?

In recent turn of events, when people swamped streets in protest against violence against women, has taken nation and media by storm. Govt as usual remains unfazed by whatever people want. It took 7 days, 2 more days after Rahul Gandhi made an appearance (still looking for answer to the question, WHY HIM?), for our esteemed head of state to feel the pain after strongly condemning the issue. Yes this time a little more strongly than previous, I am sure potential molesters are shivering with fear somewhere. Delhi CM repeated, in tears this time, she has no control over police or public. No one seemed to know the answer to where was all that water coming from in middle of water deprived national capital.  Oh yes, govt were truly protecting your right to protest. They started by shutting down metro station, applying sec 144 and then using tear gases. Till the time of writing, people in power had no clue as to who ordered these decisions.

 Even our national journalist Darkha but(t) felt the pain deeply and raised questions about victim’s and women’s condition in oh-so-madern national capital (counting only the total square feet area occupied by malls and multiplexes in Gurgaon and Noida and discounting everything else). Although she had her doubts weather these protests were secular or not. Please feel free to reply to her on twitter when you find an answer. Police were brave and quick in action against people who were trying to get to president to come out and talk to them. still confused if we still follow normal voting procedure in electing govt or does present house runs on self sustained power and whose money is it that they are getting salaries with? But I might not be secular enough to ask these questions so never mind me.

 Let me clarify by saying I didn’t go to protests because of office commitments, also because I am depressed with, I repeat DEPRESSED with the present govt and don’t expect anything good to come out of their decision. but these people were those who still had hope that govt will listen. Kudos to men and women who braved the cold, water cannons, tear gases and deaf govt to make their point visible.

  But talking about the reasons, and I am probably going to take a lot of flak for this, shouldn’t we be looking at ourselves instead of blaming the police or govt for not policing us properly? Aren’t WE the problem? Who are these people passing comments, whistling, groping women in public places? How do they do it despite knowing they will return to face their mother/sister or daughter? Although there are good men who won’t touch a woman without her permission, those who offend are certainly among us. I personally know some men who think it’s manly to stare, follow women. Just because they are standing outside a disco means there character needs judging. Won’t allow their sisters to even talk to other guys but it’s ok when they are flirting with random women. Have opinions on weather a woman should work after marriage or not. And the moment any logical discussion is about to start, we start shoving tradition, culture and values in the face of counter point of view.

  So maybe, just maybe, the problem lies inside us and deep rooted in the way of life, which tells us its ok to treat women as second-class citizen whose every decision in life should be ideally governed by ‘what society will say’. What good is a culture if it prevents us from celebrating the act of giving life? YES I AM TALKING ABOUT SEX. Let me say that again SEX. SEX. Uncomfortable? Made you turn in your place? Precisely my point. If we teach our son’s to respect women and ask before touching or invading their privacy, maybe we wont need to remove tinted glasses from cars and shutdown pubs/kill nightlife in a city. And rape is NOT about pleasure, it is more about exercising power because a person dared to question your point of view.

  But that’s just me. People are justified in their anger against govt for not acting, and trust me I share your anger in more ways than one, but as far as women are concerned, somehow introspection is more required than pelting stones at rajpath. Mothers, talk to your kids. They know more than you think they do. Tell them, it’s not ok to touch a woman without her permission. As a society, we owe this to women. There is a reason men cant produce life, women are empowered with it. respect it.

  Agree/disagree? Feel free to comment \m/oO\m/

#freeandopen: why you should care

‘if you want to test a man’s character, give him power’ – Abraham Lincoln

Being a blogger, you are expected to be politically correct and subtle with your humor because here’s the thing about power, it doesn’t encourage mocking. Sarcasm gets away because not many people are able to see the underlining pun and even fewer find it funny. So in a country where subject such as how many cartoons should kids be exposed to, makes it to national newspaper’s headline after being debated furiously in parliament, I found it odd that arresting people over posts on social networking sites/blogs came as a surprise. Furthermore, when a search engine is forced to tell you that govt’s are planning to gag internet to suit them, it brings up a huge dilemma.

  Internet is and always has been free barring some pseudo democracies and countries feeling too good about themselves.  World Wide Web, in its earlier phases, was supposed to be paid according to rumors but the guy who invented it decided to give it up for free. Millions of data transfer and invention of iPod’s later, apple fans please pay attention; people realized what a boon that turned out to be. Egyptians can elaborate here. People across the globe could make their voices heard. Every opinion mattered. If you have an internet connection, you could make your voice heard. Similar minded people joined hands to make something as basic as peer-to-peer exchange, a big industry. Newspapers began to break news on their online portal in real time because of large readership. Comment threads were opened for discussion and turned out people who seemed pretty content earlier had an opinion too. Secret wires between diplomacies were put up for the world to see the dialogues between closed doors.

  But like every good thing, some people took the power of anonymity along with the ability to express themselves independently and used it to voice their extreme opinions. When I say extreme, I mean the inability and refusal to hear and/or acknowledge a counter view. like in real life, people began hijacking discussions forums and comments section were strictly moderated because there can be no limit to what you can say when you don’t have to say it face to face. Govt’s understood the need to monitor and make laws, which governed Internet. But there lies the problem.

How much policing is too much?

Google's initiative

 Which brings me to my post, is government right is trying to enforce laws that prevents us from looking at certain pages because they think its not right?  Isn’t government, by suggesting that we can be tried for something that so much as even causes ‘Discomfort and annoyance’, taking away the right to speech in some way? More importantly, how and why do you plan to filter communications between citizens of free country? Is a post on some social networking site worthy enough to get you detained? 10 years before today, this might not have created such uproar but now, when every second marks a new breaking news and the 24-hour news channel thing has actually started to make sense (talking in terms of quantity, quality on the other hand leaves much to be desired).

  Talking about the illusive democracy we live in, Mr. Sibal has been defending government’s action continuously by saying they don’t want to curtail free speech and are in favor of citizens having opinions. Well I trust Mr. Sibal because he is in a position of power and for the well being of my extended family, I cannot afford to afford to disagree with him. But if Google is anything to go by, and I don’t see why they would want to lie about it, there seems to be some misunderstanding somewhere. Because we are number 2 in asking for details about citizen’s browsing details and asking for shutting down sites. Plus, those two Mumbai females did not have a very good experience for having an opinion online, and her doctor uncle will vouch for that because his office got ransacked by some guys who disagreed with said lady’s comments and were not able to find a dislike button on the networking site in question, nor did that unknown guy from Pondicherry for causing displeasure to a certain MP. Let me specify explicitly, for obvious reasons, that I don’t necessarily agree with either of these school of thoughts but these cases could have been handled better. And I am not even going into the way the north-eastern fiasco was handled in recent times.

  And shutting down every channel/medium, which disagrees with government, is certainly not the way to go forward. Agreed, people need to watch their words and verify sources before making claims but going all ballistic on netizens because they don’t make too much difference in polling number game is not a very smart move. What makes government’s claims even more absurd is the way Internet is treated when used in general discussions. Considering how it has turned every user into an activist of sorts, we, as citizens who voted them to power, need to ask governments, what exactly is that they are afraid of? Why would they want to shut down a page?  Because I still believe that something, which connects people and makes them audible can only help in growing democracies if dealt with wisely.

 Buckle up leaders, the world is watching

Agree/disagree, have something to say? do share \m/oO\m/

‘Life of Pi’ is no ‘Cast Away’

  Didn’t update blog for a while because I didn’t have too much to say. Plus i LOVE my govt/A regional party/their Leader(s) and don’t want to get arrested. Well, you get the picture. Speaking of picture, this post is about what I could make of Life of Pi.

*May contain spoilers, NOT a review. Viewing advised before reading*

  I just caught late night show of ‘Life of Pi’, which left me speechless. I had my fears because of the reviews, which suggested that god connection which filmmaker wanted to establish was a hit and miss. I have not read the book and believe that written fiction always surpasses whatever can bedepicted on screen. But for me the movie does so much to get that wow feeling by it’s ending that you just don’t want to get into good or bad debate. Hence, the post.

  Movie is your regular shipwreck story about the lone survivor who finds himself on a lifeboat with a tiger named Richard parker along with a hyena, Zebra and a rat and how instincts guide him to his survival. I suggest you catch the movie with the other dimension because you wouldn’t want to miss out on the gorgeous CGI. The part I found most interesting was the connection protagonist establishes with something that threatens his existence and he should ideally fear. The tiger actually helps him stay alert and think for the entire period. People might find traces of Wilson, the plank, from Tom Hanks’s cast away here but unlike the later; Richard parker is not only a carnivore, but also a hungry one at that.

Pi and Richard parker

  The fact that movie features Tiger in a supporting role, which is silent most of the time in the movie, turns out to be the most riveting part instead of being a handicap. What is intriguing about the fact is, and I keep stressing on the fact, that these two make an odd pair to be together on a stranded boat in a survival story. Throughout I felt, and I may be wrong, it was more the connection between the two and less about the struggle. Although parker does try to kill him once but then it adapts to the situation, i.e. accepts the fact they have to be together in this. Pi writes in his journal that the fear of survival from a Bengal tiger keeps him thinking and stops him from going insane.  There is also an intended god connect part which is left open for you to interpret. What I could figure out was, it was when pi decides to accept whatever fate has thrown its way was when he is at peace with himself.

  After the end credits started rolling, I was silent and didn’t quite put a finger on what made it such a great watch. And even after so much time, I am not sure why I found it so calming. This feeling was nothing like the epic-win feeling after the thunder-ish escape scene unfolds in Shawshank Redemption or the pity at the ending scene in Cast away because hanks’s character was supposed to die and by having survived he has just upset the regular state of being. Or maybe I was just relieved that Pi managed to live a normal life and start a family, in short start all over again, despite loosing everything dear to him and surviving a near death experience.

  Not to forget, this is a work of fiction. But like Pi says in the end, a story is as real as you believe it to be. It’s your choice how you chose to interpret. I saw it, as fictional as it might be, as a journey where life teaches you to have faith, accept things the way they are and never lose hope no matter how harsh the circumstances are.

Grab a loved one, preferably the one that doesn’t have too many questions or doesnt fit the stereotype between the movies and see it for yourself. Thank me later.

 

Saw the movie? Liked/disliked it? Have something to add, please do. \m/oO\m/